Lucky for me, I managed to locate one. Ever since I was prescribed bed rest during my pregnancy with Brody, Trevor has been slowly transforming. He’s gone from hands-on dad to full-on Mr. Mom. It’s been amazing to watch, and I am so grateful for the man that he is and the dad that he’s become. Don’t get me wrong, he’s always been a fantastic dad. He has gotten in the floor with Knox to play, changed diapers, given baths, etc. Now, he’s just taken things to a whole new level. He really had to become the primary caregiver for Knox when I was on bed rest, and that was extended when Brody was born. Brody was/is not the easiest of newborns, so much of my attention had to go to him. During that time, Trevor totally took over Knox’s care. I didn’t even have to ask him to do things- he just took the initiative and knew what had to be done.
Knox stays with Trevor several days during the week, and he LOVES his time with Daddy! He has turned into the biggest Daddy’s boy ever, which is great (though it makes me kind of sad when he runs to Trevor instead of me… such is life with boys, I guess- Dad is always cooler than mom!). Trevor takes care of everything- he gets Knox up and dressed in the mornings, brushes his teeth, feeds him breakfast, puts him down for naps, and so on and so forth. We have taken on the “divide and conquer” form of parenting two boys (at least while Brody is so little and needs to nurse so often)- I take Brody and Trevor takes Knox on the days that he is off of work. We are all together, of course, hanging out, but when something has to be done, like bath time, I bathe Brody and he bathes Knox. We don’t segment off all the time or anything. When he has to be at the fire station, obviously, I do everything myself, so it’s really nice when he’s home!!
I feel blessed beyond belief to be married to a man that doesn’t shy away from parenting. I know a lot of men that wouldn’t consider diaper changing to be their “job,” but Trevor never complains about taking care of our kids. Eventually, he’ll have both of them at home with him on his days off, and he tells me he can’t wait. He’s even been talking about homeschooling them when it’s time for school… for real. I am just so impressed with him!
When we were still dating, all of the signs were there that Trevor would be a great dad. It was one of the things that drew me to him. I could never have imagined, though, the kind of father he would actually be. I could not ask for a better husband or dad to my kids. I am so thrilled for Knox and Brody to grow up with a father that will be there for them through everything, that will play with them, that will support them, that will help mold them into the men they’re to be, that will be a good Christian role model and will help them form their own relationships with God. He is so far beyond anything I could have ever hoped for them to have.
Trevor and I have gotten so much closer, with each difficulty we’ve gone through in our lives together. I am so thankful that hard things have pushed us together, rather than pulled us apart. He is truly my rock, supporting me through whatever I am going through, and he’s always there to make me laugh. I laugh all the time around him- that is not something I take for granted! He makes me happy. And it doesn’t hurt that he’s pretty easy on the eyes, too. I think him finding his dream job and being truly happy at work has benefited our entire family. He is personally fulfilled, and that makes him an even better husband and father.
We are so blessed to have him.
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