Last night, we had more of the same with Knox. I was completely exhausted and could not wait to get into bed. By 8:00, Knox and I were both ready to turn in. I put him in his bassinet and he was very asleep. So, I went to sleep, too. Not two minutes after I fell asleep, he was screaming. I just do not understand what’s going on with him! Yet again, I tried everything, and nothing seemed to work. Trevor had come up by this point and was getting frustrated. He said “That’s it! I’m getting him a bottle. I have my doubts that your boobs are giving him all that he needs.”
::crickets::
Y’all, I nearly killed him. I felt like that was a direct attack on my motherliness. I just stared at him. Eventually, after the rage allowed me to regain use of my speech, I told him “Yeah, that’s why he chokes when I feed him because my milk is shooting out so fast, or milk drips down his chin while he eats, because I don’t have enough for him.” FFS, I pump after feeding and still get around four ounces, so I definitely have enough for him.
Giving him a bottle is a sore subject for me for whatever reason, even though it’s my own milk. I hate to do it. He’s only had a bottle probably four times ever, and that was when I was out running errands. I guess I feel like I’m inadequate if he has to have a bottle while I’m there, which is totally stupid and untrue, but that’s how it makes me feel.
Finally, I went and got a bottle to bring to Trevor. Knox didn’t take a single drop. Because he wasn’t hungry. At which point I said “because my boobs work, Trevor.” He apologized to me for saying it in the first place just because he was frustrated, but you know, I don’t want to hear about him being frustrated when I am the one up during the night to do each feeding and the one that cares for him all day long. He doesn’t know what frustration is. I love him to death and he’s a great dad, but he needs to work on his tact.
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oh snap. he'd better kiss your ass big time for the next few days.
naughty mr. southernbelle. very naughty.
your boobs are doing a perfect job- sometimes babies just scream
(p.s. have you tried gas drops? or perhaps it could be a dairy intolerance? some babies have no other symptoms besides screaming when their tummies hurt because of something we ate. citrus, fried food, dairy- etc…)
alex never cried- but she did have mucousy poops with a little blood sometimes…
Ahh! What the devil is wrong with our husbands?!
It sounds like a belly issue to me; our little guy has such a sensitive stomach & it was sensitive to formula (sadly I wasn't able to BF) so maybe it is something in your milk (not meaning this offensivly AT ALL)??
My hubbs & I went & go through the same thing you guys are doing & our LO is 7.5 months old; he is a great dad & hubby but I do everything for B & he is the one that gets to sleep & have "him" time……& doesn't understand why I bite his head off when he says certain things but being deprived of sleep can make you do crazy things!! Being a mom is VERY hard & it is something I don't think they will ever really understand BUT you are doing a great job!!! Hang in there.
::throat punch::
You better get some flowers, girl.
Also, ditto T. Check into those things!
Aw poor baby! Mine did the same thing and it is "silent reflux." Hopefully its not that and he just had a bad tummy day. And your DH just had a bad foot in mouth day.
Awww no he did not!!! Ditto on the flowers, and throw in a nice romantic dinner while he is at it. I wonder what is wrong with him…I hope you figure it out asap!!
Around 2 months my son also would cry 5 minutes after laying him down, I thought nothing of it, then he started only taking 2 oz instead of 4oz and arching his back when eating. Then I figured it was reflux and took him to the Dr. And I was right. Knox may have "silent reflux" – I am not really familiar with that though. Might be worth a quick check up.
Are you sure you don't have my husband????
Been there….This too shall pass…Hang in there!
Well, Knox definitely has reflux. He's been on Zantac for a while now. We just upped his dose last week because he outgrew the old dosage. I don't think it's working anymore, though. He's been spitting up a lot more, so I am going to call the doctor and see if we can switch to something else!
It will happen over and over again where your husband will say something crappy about your mothering.
We had this issue with our daughter and it turned out to be gas. It's annoying and frustrating but just know it's probably not something you can fix immediately.
I also had the same weirdness about bottles, but we know that boobies do a much better job. How did babies thrive before bottles? BOOBIES!
Listen to t.bird's advice, she's got it right.
I remember distinctly telling my husband (while still pregnant), to NEVER question my ability to feed our baby from the breast. I said if he didn't have the needed wet/poopy diapers, ONLY then could he express concern. I hope Trevor comes around after you set him straight!
omg my husband and i the same argument when son was about 2 months. i know the feeling, when husband said he was giving him a bottle, i cried! that night was awful. i'm still bfing and have plenty for our little guys.
our issue right now is that luc won't be with anyone but me and it's bugging husband…hehehe
i have changed my diet because of his sensitive tummy. i have stopped my dairy while bfing and it has helped.
you're doing a great job with knox and keep bfing, you have plenty for that cute little guys.
wow! haha i would have flown across the room. no crickets to be heard! i envy you and your boobs! mine apparently made poison. haha. keep it up! you're obviously growing a gorgeous little boy! i think the guys have a hard time understanding. they see the sad little baby and just want to help. they don't think about how their words sound to us.
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